First time sex tips for novices

“Well begun is half done”, if you stick to this note when it comes to having sex then it will definitely help you in the long run. So, it is better to seek some bedroom tips from you agony aunt and be the conqueror in the bed.

 

Here are few kinky tips for the freshers who are willing to pop their cherry.

 

Protection

 

Safe sex is not optional - it's essential. And the only way to be sure that it is safe is to plan your protection in advance. Never assume that your partner has condoms and contraceptive pills , always carry your own things and play safe.

 

Don't think that being on the pill counts as protection. Sure, it will prevent you from getting pregnant but it won't provide protection against STIs. If there's even an inkling that you're going to be having sex in the near future, buy your condoms now.

 

You only pop your cherry once so it's important you do it for you and not anybody else. Otherwise, it's less likely to be a pleasant experience and more likely one you'll regret in the future.

 

Will it hurt?

 

Experiencing a bit of discomfort the first time you have sex is quite common. This is often down to lack of arousal, which can be a knock-on effect of nerves.

 

When you're turned on, the vaginal canal lengthens and expands to accommodate your man's penis. You also produce natural lubrication, which prevents uncomfortable friction from his thrusting. Being nervous, on the other hand, can cause your vaginal muscles to tighten, making penetration more difficult.

 

1. Advanced planning

 

We're not suggesting you draw up a timeline and an itinerary here - there is certainly a lot to be said for spontaneity. But likewise, setting the scene can really help to put you in the mood. Choose a time when you know you're not going to be disturbed by your housemates, switch your phone off, tidy your room, put on some clean sheets and don't be caught out wearing those off-white holey knickers.

 

2. Foreplay

 

Don't rush in with the attitude of "getting it over with". Instead, take your time and indulge in lots of foreplay first. Focus on how great your man is making you feel and try to take it one moment at a time without worrying about what's ahead. Let the arousal build to a frenzy before you let him enter you. And if you still feel as though nerves might be inhibiting your natural lubrication, keep a tube of lube to hand to help him slide in easily. Make it part of your foreplay by having him lube you, then return the favour and apply it to his condom-covered erection right before he enters you.

 

3. Slow and sensual

 

Once he's inside you, take it nice and slowly and continue to engage in lots of kissing and caressing. You don't want him thrusting at full pelt. There's plenty of time for that further down the line. Don't be afraid to speak up and tell him what feels good, and importantly, what doesn't. Remember he has insecurities too, so gently tell him, "A little slower" or "Not so hard," but remember to encourage him too with a few "Ahhh, yes, right there", "That feels amazing" etc.